Why I Won’t Have A Conversation About Race With My 3 Year Old
The other morning I was curious if my three year old would even understand the color of skin. I asked him what color are you? He responded blue. I asked him what color is Miss Karen? He said pink. I then asked him what color is Miss Betty? He said purple. One person in the mix is black and after asking him again the color of skin and pointing out that one was black, he said no she isn’t she is purple and was very adamant about it. I asked him again later in the day the same question and he responded with the exact colors as earlier. I pulled…
What Is Your Balance In Your Emotional Bank Account?
What Is Your Balance In Your Emotional Bank Account? Sounds like an odd question but if you think about it for a minute, what a great metaphor. Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, uses the metaphor of an ‘Emotional Bank Account’ to measure the amount of trust that accumulates in a relationship.1 We all make deposits and withdrawals to this “account” on an ongoing basis. Deposits get added when you do things that are trustworthy or demonstrate care. Withdraws occur when we act in a manner that has people less willing to risk psychological safety by doing things such as being disrespectful, dismissive or dishonest. …
Signs Of A Healthy Relationship & What ISN’T
What Are the Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy Love? I found this from one of my Facebook notes 12 years ago and guess what? It still holds true! I instill these into my nieces and nephews, the difference between Healthy & Unhealthy Love and what warning signs to look out for. We have all been guilty of staying in an unhealthy relationship a time or two but if I can teach them young, maybe they won’t make the same mistakes. Healthy vs. Unhealthy Love… Healthy: Your focus on yourself and being happy is your first priority. Unhealthy: You are obsessed with your relationship. Healthy: You maintain your own identity, separate…
Depression, Not A Dirty Little Secret
The other night during the Grammy’s, Demi Lovato was up to sing and had to restart the song because emotions took over. The song that she was performing, Anyone, was written 4 days prior to her overdose in 2018. A comment was made, “I don’t understand why they have to keep talking about it. Can’t we just let it go already?”, and this struck a nerve. My comment back was, “Depression is not discriminatory. It can take hold of the rich, poor, famous, black, white, young and old. It can be expressed in many forms and we definitely need to keep talking about it”. The lyrics in Demi’s song were…
Time To Dance
Anyone else feel their life in the morning is absolute chaos? Not just me? Good to know because this was my morning today! You reluctantly climb out of bed too early to the sweet sound of “mommy” down the hall. After stumbling around you make it to his room and get him to the bathroom to potty. Then it begins in no particular order: You have to feed the kid and get him something to drink, feed the dog, take showers, get yourself dressed and hopefully hair and makeup if you have time,get the kid dressed and not forget it is Soccer Shots day so make sure he has his…
Top Parenting Questions Googled
They say parenting doesn’t come with a handbook and I am going to disagree. While it isn’t in handbook form, Google has become my go to when I have questions. Now I know you can’t rely on everything you read but other mama’s like myself have shared their experiences and after reading many scenarios I usually take a bit of each. Here are a few key things that I have searched in the past 18 months and have been asked by other parents. Remember none of this is biblical and should always be discussed with your doctor! Question: When can a baby sleep with a blanket? Answer: By the time your child…
I Don’t See You
To the mom that ______, I don’t See you So many posts these days that have “I See You” and this may make me a bit unpopular but, I don’t See you. I don’t See the struggles you face with depression or anxiety every day because of your situation. I don’t See the difficulties of having a child with special needs. I don’t See the woman that has spent countless hours injecting herself with what she is praying to be her miracle to conceive. I don’t See the mama that is with the love of her life in the NICU, praying that she will get…
Shop Small Business!
Small Business owners are the backbone the country was built on. This Christmas season let’s show our appreciation and Shop Small Business! I have had some amazing people reach out to me to make a list for you to make shopping easier! Alex & Mario with La Vida Loca Boutique I love, love, love my wrap and cardigan I purchased from Alex & Mario’s store! The wrap is from Ecuador and is wool and cotton. The pin is made from coconut and I get so many compliments from each piece! Can’t wait to visit them again soon! Oh and they have free shipping! Facebook [supsystic-gallery id=21 position=center] Matt with Carpet…
Listen With Intent
You hear but do you listen? Stephen Covey Wrote “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” I truly never understood that until I had an interaction with an individual that taught me there is more to conversation than just hearing. Coop and I were at the grocery store and a young man started waving and yelling at me from the end of the aisle. At first I wasn’t sure if he was speaking to me so I let it go. After a few more “Hey’s and Hello’s” and looking around to realize it was me he was talking…
Your Best Life Now!
Does your past cripple you from moving forward with your future? Do you look at generations before you and feel their downfalls hinder you from living your best life? This is your life so are you where you want to be? These are the questions I asked myself after a girl’s night out and had heavy conversations. There were tears and self-realizations to issues that I had never put my finger on, till then. The topic of how we parent was brought up and comments were made that, “I want to do better, be better in my children’s lives and how I raise them. I don’t want the things of…
