Being a mom is one of the most wonderful experiences anyone can have. It can also be stressful and exhausting at times, and all the pressure and judgment we put on ourselves certainly does not help. The good news is there are some things you can do to lift a little of the burden of mom’s life, read on to find out what they are.
Good enough parenting
The sheer amount of pressure that is placed on moms today is massive, and sometimes practicing a little compassion and being realistic about what you can truly get done with your time is the best approach.
Some people call this good enough parenting, and even if you don’t follow the rules of this movement exactly, it’s always a good way to remind yourself that you do not have to be the perfect parent 100% of the time.
Get some time to yourself
When you become a mom everything changes, including your sense of self. After all, you have a little one that does not yet understand that they are an individual and not a part of you relying on you for their every need.
Indeed, being a mom can be very taxing and overwhelming, and we often think we just have to grit our teeth and get through it. Yet, this isn’t the case. Instead, making sure we get some time to ourselves can be very revitalizing and help us come back to taking care of our child.
Happily, there are several options you can explore here from placing your child in day care, to asking your partner or a trusted family member to take care of them for a while. Remember asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness, and both you and your child will benefit from it.
Although what you spend your alone time on is totally up to you, whether it’s catching up on some much-needed sleep, or catching up on your favorite box set!
Stop comparing yourself to other moms
Comparison is the thief of joy, and that is particularly the case when it comes to comparing yourself to other moms. The thing is that you don’t ever really know what other moms are going through anyway, and so if you end up comparing yourself to their curated best bits on social media you are only going to make yourself feel bad, and drain the valuable energy you need to take care of your child.
With that in mind, try to surround yourself in real life and online with people that are realistic and honest about motherhood and that will support you when you struggle. It can make all the difference.
Slow down and enjoy the moment
Last, of all, the truth of being a parent is that your child will only be little for a short amount of time. That is why it’s so important that you slow down, and take some time to be present and enjoy each stage of their development.
Yes, I know it can be easy to get caught up in all the advice and worry that comes with being a mom, but you have got this, and it’s OK to just be still and spend time with your baby and toddler.
So, next time you get all flustered about ‘doing’ take a moment to just be and notice how much of a miracle your child is.