Today marks two years since we lost our first, my husband’s birthday and our rainbow baby’s eight months old. While I was hesitant to write anything about it I realized I am allowed to celebrate and allowed to be upset still. While I am incredibly blessed to have such an amazing little boy, I know in heaven we have a son or a daughter that wasn’t ready to leave. I will always wonder and I know that one day we will meet.
While so many women have experienced loss we are still hesitant to talk about it. Some see it as taboo others have not been in those shoes and are at a loss for words. To those that have not been through it, know that sometimes we just need an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. I would never wish for another to be able to relate and while the conversation can be awkward it is an important conversation to have.
In October 1988, President Ronald Reagan proclaimed October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness month. “When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes”
On October 15th every year is Infant Loss Remembrance Day at 7:00p. Everyone is invited to light a candle and keep it burning for at least one hour. I ask everyone that has experienced loss, has a friend or family member that has lost to please participate and light a candle with me. If you will take a photo and tag themamalifeblogspot on whichever social media account platform you use and let’s bring unity and support to those that have lost.
God bless y’all and remember I am praying for you always!